Monday, December 21, 2009

A Christmas Gift for God

dear daughters,

Can you believe it’s almost Christmas? Soon presents wrapped in paper and tied with bright ribbon will be shared to celebrate the greatest gift ever given – the gift of Jesus, the Savior.

When Jesus was with His disciples, He told a lot of stories. I bet you’ve had teachers who told stories to help you understand their lessons. This is what Jesus did, and in Luke 8, He begged them to pay attention to what He was saying. He told a story about a person who was planting seeds.

1. Some seeds fell by the road. These seeds never grew at all because they were trampled on and snatched away by hungry birds.

2. Some seeds fell on rocks. These seeds grew, but their roots couldn’t go down deep so they weren’t grounded. These plants couldn’t stand strong when tested, and they withered away.

3. Some seeds fell in thorns. These seeds grew also, but could only grow so much because of the crowded, prickly conditions. These plants did not grow into their full beauty.

4. Some seeds fell into healthy soil and became well-rooted. These plants bloomed, produced fruit and multiplied in number, because they were nourished and encouraged to grow.

Jesus said the seed is God’s Word. Girls, God has planted this seed in your hearts. You must protect it from being stolen, starved, or stifled. Instead, make sure it is strengthened. Your heart is God’s garden. Is His Word planted in bare, rocky or thorny ground, or is it safe and secure in healthy soil?

God has given you the gift of Jesus and the gift of His Word. This Christmas, give Him the gift of a well-tended heart. Promise to stay planted in healthy places where your faith can develop – away from threats, temptations and tensions – so that you may grow into the beautiful, fruitful creation He designed you to be.

“So (you) will be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that He may be glorified.” -Isaiah 61:3

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Extreme Makeover

dear daughters,

Our brains are amazing, especially in early adulthood. Between the ages of about 16 and 24, scientists say the brain undergoes a complete renovation, like reorganizing a closet. Some things are thrown out, and what remains is reorganized so the closet makes more sense and has more storage space. If the process goes well, then the closet – or the brain – looks different and is more useful than before.

This brain renovation thing is part of God’s plan, but it puts emotions in high gear. At your age, you probably laugh a lot and cry easily, get upset frequently and fall in love quickly. You may tend to react and then reflect, rather than the other way around. This is why you see some of your friends making surprising decisions that will last a lifetime. Your brain is under construction and your emotions are supercharged. But, emotions must never rule. We are to be ruled by God’s Spirit. This renovation period is a training time for life, to teach you the value of trusting God rather than your emotions.

Knowing the Designer is doing a lot of work in you right now should excite you. He has a grand design in mind because He loves you. So tame your emotion, believe His Word and follow His Spirit. Then the redesign will be just as God intends –beautiful and right on time!

“The mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace.” Romans 8:6

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Monday, November 9, 2009

The Path of Life

dear daughters,

Aimee is already working on her spring class schedule at college. She met with an advisor to discuss her goals for graduation and develop a plan. It makes so much sense; doesn’t it? She met with an advisor who knows the system. The advisor has experience and sees the big picture. The advisor can show Aimee the path she should take.

Would you agree that life is even more important than college? Our life is a gift from God, and what we choose to do with it is our gift back to Him. God is the author of life, and He’s the only one with the big picture. He designed it. He knows how it’s meant to work better than any person could ever know.

Because God loves us, He advises us of the path we should take in life. He gives us the Bible, which outlines the way to the joyful life He wants us to have. He gives us His Holy Spirit to counsel us and help us know truth. He uses writers, teachers and preachers to help us as we learn. And He welcomes our prayers to seek His wisdom.

I pray you go to God, your great life advisor. He knows the big picture and the best plan for your life. Let Him show you the way.

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Beautiful change

dear daughters,

Fall pumpkins and cooler weather are here. The leaves are starting to turn all shades of yellow, orange and red. Every season is full of change, but this one is so obvious and beautiful! As a young woman, you are beginning to change too. You’ve experienced changes before, but most have probably been under your parents’ roof. Somehow change is easier when your address stays the same. But now is the time for big changes: college, jobs, and maybe marriage. Change is very pronounced in this season of life, like the autumn leaves.

My biggest changes happened before I was thirty. I changed colleges three times and majors four. I changed boyfriends and even husbands. I changed hometowns, houses and jobs. Some of my changes were happy, and some were not. Some were easy, and others very difficult. Some changes came from my listening to God; others came from my ignoring Him. Ten years from now, you will look back and see many changes in your life, too. I pray that you will like what you see. I believe you will, if you’ll look to God now for His help and guidance with every step you take, and every decision you make.

Take hold of God’s hand as you walk through this important season of life and don’t let go. You are a changing creature, but your Creator is always the same. Let Him guide you into the changes that will let you be all He designed you to be. He has your best life in mind, a more joyful life than you can imagine!

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Monday, August 31, 2009

dear daughters,

The school year has begun! Anki and Aimee are both in college now, and Latania is an “upper classman”! My how time flies! Each of you is in an important season of life.

I’ve been reading a book called The New Eve: Choosing God’s Best for Your Life by Robert Lewis. He talks about the seasons of life for women, even young women. I’ll share a little of it today and save the rest for later. Here are three things he suggests young single women do.

1. Envision what you want your life to look like when you are out of school and down the road about ten or fifteen years. Then figure out how to get there and take steps in that direction.

2. Pray for God’s best husband for you, and follow His leading to find that special one. Decide in advance your nonnegotiables. Know what to look for in a good man. “The best way to find a good man and keep him is to become a good woman.”

3. Develop your character by continuing to go to church, fellowship with Christian friends, and study the Bible. “Character is the ground floor of your life. Who you are will always be more important than what you do. Build your (good) character now rather than take on the harder work of rebuilding it in later seasons. The better your character, the better your life.”

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Remember the Rainbow

dear daughters,

Spring has long ago sprung, and summer has already begun. But today at my house the spring storms are still in the air.

Last night, the storms were so severe I was in the closet for twenty minutes! The tornado and fire truck sirens howled, and my dog Moo eagerly joined the alarming chorus.

The tops of several of our trees were sheared straight off. Huge limbs lay in abundance around our house in both the front and back yards. As my mother used to say about my room, “It looks like a tornado came through.” And it may have.

When the storms quieted down, Papa Jeff and I were left sitting in the dark without any electricity. So we decided to venture out in the car to see what damage had been done. Fortunately, we saw lots of standing water and broken trees, but no displaced people or broken homes. Many storms are far worse.

As we drove around, I looked at the back side of the ferocious storm that had left its mark on our yard. Surprisingly, I saw a beautiful rainbow. It occurred to me the rainbow wasn’t on the front or in the middle of the storm. It came on its heels, following behind after the intensity of the storm had passed.

In Genesis, God promised Noah he would never again destroy “all flesh” of the earth by a flood, and the rainbow was his sign of this promise. But there is an even bigger message in the rainbow. It reminds us that God is in control of every storm. It is a symbol of his power to limit a storm’s impact, to determine its magnitude and decide its end.

We all face storms and many are of another kind – life storms that move in our direction seemingly out of nowhere. Like rain storms, they are dark and scary. They are beyond our control. They can cause damage and even threaten our lives. We wonder if they will ever end.

When you experience life storms like failure, loss and heartache, I pray today you will always remember God is at the beginning, in the middle, and at the end of every storm that comes your way. He is always present and always in control.

Next time you find yourself in a storm, anticipate the rainbow. It will surely come!

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Lizards and Leaves

dear daughters,

The other day, Moo came running in the study and jumped up on the sofa next to me, barking her head off and hitting at my hand while I was typing. I thought she had to go outside. So I got up and walked with her in the hallway. There in front of me was this bright green lizard just staring at me. Of course I let out a blood-curdling scream!

I wasn’t going to touch him with my bare hands, so I got a big plastic cup, put a fresh green sprig inside it like bait on a fish hook, and tried to lure him. But I couldn’t tempt him for anything. He kept running away from my trap. Finally, I opened the back door and chased him that way. It worked! Outside he went!

We are a lot like that lizard. Sometimes we find ourselves in places we shouldn’t be. We go through an open door that wasn’t meant for us, and then we have this sense that we are not meant to be there. We run around not knowing what to do. There are choices in this place. There are temptations to try new things – like the cup with the fresh green leaves that look really good for eating. Or we can choose the open door of escape, to get back to where we came from, back where we belong.

This is just like life with God. When we go through the wrong door, we run around in circles; but God always gives us a way out.

This promise is in the Bible in 1Corinthians 10:13. “No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.”

In other words, you’ll never be in a situation that others haven’t been in before. And God will never let you be in a situation you can’t get out of, because He’ll always give you a way out of your mess. He wants you living in freedom, not trapped in a plastic cup!

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Friday, April 10, 2009

Fake Fruit

dear daughters,

You know that I believe God speaks to me in strange ways. Well, the other day while reading, I got so sleepy I just had to take a nap! I felt a little guilty, but when I awoke, I had to wonder if it wasn’t God who made me sleepy just so He could wake me up!

I woke up to the strangest sound. A bird had landed in my wreath on the front door, and the sound of his fluttering wings next to the glass window was startling. When I realized it was only a bird and nothing to fear, I began to watch him (or her) to see what he was doing. He was eating the berries! It might sound cute, but the berries are not real and I realized he could get really ill if he kept eating them. So I hurriedly knocked on the glass, startling him as he had startled me, and he flew away.

In that moment, I heard God say to me, “You do this. You are like that bird, so often clinging to the wrong vines, eating fake fruit rather than mine.” OMG! I didn’t want to hear that. But I knew it was true! How often I feast on the fake things of this world instead of what is real and good for me to eat!

Jesus said, “I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser” (John 15:1). This Easter weekend, remember that because of Jesus the Son, we can have a relationship with God the Father, one that satisfies and nourishes us like nothing else can. God is tending to a garden of goodness for us to enjoy, but it is up to us to eat from the right Vine.

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Junk Food is for Junkies!

dear daughters,

While you’re walking the halls of your schools, do you realize you’re not just walking as a student, a friend, a daughter, or even a text-message-queen? You’re also walking as God’s unique creation, designed for a special life story. God wants you to live your story well, so that through you, He can tell His story of love for the world!

Daddy Jeff wanted our Bible study class to learn Joshua 1:8. It’s a long and wordy Bible verse, so here’s a momma b version for you:

Keep eating the Word of God! Make the Bible your soul food night and day! It’ll feed your mind and heart so that you’ll want to do your best to live like it says to live. And then, you’ll take steps in a positive direction and have real success!

I couldn’t have said it better myself! (Ha!) Like all Bible verses, this passage is full of TRUTH! I know. I’ve done it both ways, eating God’s Word and walking God’s way, and eating junk food and walking my own way. I promise you, God’s way is ALWAYS best. And that’s coming from someone who learned it the hard way!

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Love So Deep

dear daughters,

Love is in the air! Everywhere you look there’s red and pink, cupids and hearts. It’s that time of the year!

Did you know that it’s that time of the year all year long with God? He is always in love with you. He doesn’t wait until a certain month or day to show it. He doesn’t need a reminder. His Valentine message is just waiting for you to read it every day. It’s in His book, the Bible. Love is written all across the pages of His Word. It’s His love letter to you!

But God goes beyond writing His love down. He loves you so much that He puts His love right in your heart when you ask Jesus to be your Lord. There is no other love that is like God’s love. No parent’s love. No man’s love. Only God’s love fills your heart to overflowing. All other kinds of love come up short.

Valentine’s Day is every day when your greatest love is in Jesus. I pray your love for Him grows deeper each day. His love for you is so deep it cannot even be measured! Now that’s what I call love!

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Beautiful Promises, Brighter Tomorrows

dear daughters,

Do you ever feel like giving up? Like nothing you do is ever going to be good enough or amount to anything? Have you ever been in a tough situation you think you can’t survive? I sure have. But God has taught me this is no way to think! He wants us to think good thoughts, hopeful thoughts, trusting thoughts. He wants us to believe Him and what He has promised.

Trusting God during hard times is difficult. But the Bible teaches that God has everything under control. I believe He knows what choices you will make, both the good and the bad, and already has a plan to work out those choices for good. He knows that sometimes your choices lead to disappointments and even pain. And He knows that sometimes other people’s choices lead to your disappointment and pain, too. But God will use it all to help you grow and mature.

If you look at anything in nature you can see that nothing grows and becomes beautiful without some kind of struggle. And a lot of time the effort is pretty impressive. I've heard some of the most beautiful flowers live on tops of mountains amidst rocky cliffs, and they have to push through the rocks to bloom.

Now I’m not saying I’m beautiful, but I have pushed through a lot of rocks. Sometimes I wanted to give up and just survive life instead of thrive in it. I didn't think I'd amount to much or that my life would ever be enjoyable. Little did I know what God had planned for me, and how He'd turn my hard times into good.

So, hang in there. Perseverance produces beautiful character! Keep trusting God and believing His Word. Rejoice in His beautiful promises for a brighter tomorrow!

living to love, loving to live,
momma b

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Happy New Year!

dear daughters,

Happy New Year! It’s hard to believe it is 2009. Aimee turned 18 since I last wrote to you, and she’ll graduate high school this year. Latania turned 16 just a few days ago, while Anki is busy working and taking college courses. You girls are growing up so fast!

I thought of you today. I was stuck waiting someplace and had nothing to do for a few minutes, so I resorted to playing 3-card solitaire on my iphone. It occurred to me the difference one card can make. Anytime I played one card from the deck, it changed the order of the cards for the next round, revealing new cards that I couldn’t play before. Playing that one card was so important, I began to think in my head, “Just one card…Come on…Just one card!” Then it hit me...

The “just one card” effect is true in life, just like in cards. Each day we have many decisions to make in areas like school, work, family, friends, and most importantly, faith. Just one changes everything. Every move affects the outcome. What one card do you need to play to change your life and make it a winning game? I imagine God just might be cheering from heaven, “Just one card…Come on….Play it, and start your new year off right!”

living to love, loving to live,
momma b